Melina Lewis, Fiona and Heather Joy Thompson graced us with their presence during the second half of our session on Saturday. They were invited to view the proceedings as they are interested in working with the ARMS programme and the Peer-to-Peer Programme at Ikageng.
The students were introduced to the Hierarchy of Values which was identified as being fundamental for the transition to Ikageng. The main aim was for the class to identify and acknowledge where the mentees’ highest values and priorities are placed. This would also be where their highest levels of energies lie.
This is one of the main entry points into gaining the mentee’s trust and understanding. This method will also assist in identifying initial commonalities between the mentors and the mentees.
The goal to successful mentoring is to gain such favour with the mentee that they open up and let you into their world. The interaction on this level will encourage the mentee and allow them to improve in areas of their lives that are lacking (i.e. school, self confidence, interaction with others etc.) as they have someone who is on their side and there to listen to them..jpg)
By locking into the mentees’ highest values, they will light up and this will also give the mentor the opportunity to share their experiences and relate to them on the same level playing field. The mentees’ are given some of the power through asking their advice or opinion in certain situations which the mentor may be going through in their life.
The key is in starting with the softer issues so as to ease into the basics of the introduction to the person. Do not go too deep too soon as this will leave the person feeling aloof and possibly very defensive or violated. Do not create a “Q & A” session either. Build on the conversation and rather let if flow and don’t try too hard as this will not be natural for both people involved.
The trick is to make it easier for the individual to open up and to make them feel comfortable in the safe, enabling environment which you create. Do not zoom in on the negatives or soft spots identified. Remember empathy at all times and most importantly the Safety Conditions (confidentiality, freedom and no judgment)! Bear in mind that the first 7 seconds are essential, so use them wisely! No pressure guys….
The students were introduced to the Hierarchy of Values which was identified as being fundamental for the transition to Ikageng. The main aim was for the class to identify and acknowledge where the mentees’ highest values and priorities are placed. This would also be where their highest levels of energies lie.
This is one of the main entry points into gaining the mentee’s trust and understanding. This method will also assist in identifying initial commonalities between the mentors and the mentees.
The goal to successful mentoring is to gain such favour with the mentee that they open up and let you into their world. The interaction on this level will encourage the mentee and allow them to improve in areas of their lives that are lacking (i.e. school, self confidence, interaction with others etc.) as they have someone who is on their side and there to listen to them.
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By locking into the mentees’ highest values, they will light up and this will also give the mentor the opportunity to share their experiences and relate to them on the same level playing field. The mentees’ are given some of the power through asking their advice or opinion in certain situations which the mentor may be going through in their life.
The key is in starting with the softer issues so as to ease into the basics of the introduction to the person. Do not go too deep too soon as this will leave the person feeling aloof and possibly very defensive or violated. Do not create a “Q & A” session either. Build on the conversation and rather let if flow and don’t try too hard as this will not be natural for both people involved.
The trick is to make it easier for the individual to open up and to make them feel comfortable in the safe, enabling environment which you create. Do not zoom in on the negatives or soft spots identified. Remember empathy at all times and most importantly the Safety Conditions (confidentiality, freedom and no judgment)! Bear in mind that the first 7 seconds are essential, so use them wisely! No pressure guys….
1 comments:
I remember those days. What stood out for me was the "inner child" introspection session. It unleashed a positive side of my life. Tim, you are a great guy, sent with blessings to bless the others. Keep up the good work. Thank you.
Philile Sithathu
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